Safe to say: Happy Birthday Mom!
The idea came from a cousin when I couldn’t think of anything good enough on my own.
How perfectly coincidental that the big 60 falls on a stream of consciousness day.
So many people care and wanted to be included in my present to my mom, and I am not done yet.
Whether birthday card greeting or nostalgia and memory, it isn’t hard to find positive things to say about her. The things flow from her, through her, if you’ve even just barely met her. I didn’t think the challenge I was putting out there was so hard.
Some people doubt their ability to use their words for self expression and toward another. They feel my expectation, perhaps, but I only wanted them to feel safe enough in saying whatever came to mind when they thought of my mom and the woman they all know and love.
Even those closest to her might have struggled, but that is just because the feelings are a little too close for comfort and, in having to put into words just what she means to them, it may have felt uncomfortable in the moment. I thought it, thought her, worth the immediate feelings of uncertainty as one sat down to write.
I wanted her to know how safe she made me feel, as her daughter, and how she has saved me, dozens and hundreds of times, from my biggest fears and from myself and the world at large.
Anyone can and soon does feel safe in talking to her, in opening up to her. That’s her gift to the rest of us who have the privilege of her in our world.
All the times I felt so sick, so much pain, and like nobody believed it, she saved me and made me feel safe again..
She was surprised by her gift and more is being added, even just today in fact.
A mother should want to do it, protect their children/grandchildren, and she does. My mother for the save.