“You cannot quit me so quickly.”
“The space between…the wicked lies we tell, and hope to keep…safe from the pain.”
“But will I hold you again?”
“These fickle, fuddled words confuse me…like will it rain today?”
Okay, well I suppose you get Dave’s picture. Talk of “twisted games” and the rest…well, check it out for yourself, if you aren’t yet familiar with this song. His word play is excellent in it.
Sunday and it’s time for my favourite thing:
I love love love
It’s a small world because she writes about Five For Fighting,
Today though, I want to speak specifically about pop songs. You know them. They’re catchy, snappy, and they get stuck in your head. That’s what they are meant to do.
But are they good for us? Or do they encourage unhealthy expectations about love?
What’s the use of a love song, a pop tune, just like a mushy romantic movie, if not to make us all think our love lives should look similar? That our relationships should either soar just as high or crash and burn just as superbly?
As you can probably tell, I have thought a lot about this over the last fifteen years or so.
I’ve always loved song lyrics, but I’m not a kid anymore. I try to find the wisdom hidden in between those lines, as a young woman who was figuring out love and now, as a slightly older one, still figuring.
Taylor Swift comes to mind, and she has ever since I first heard her earliest offering that went from the country music scene, crossing over to the pop world, where I am more often to be found.
It was a Romeo and Julietesque tale, not very modern, mature, or realistic. She was just a kid when it came out and then we all watched her grow and go through many relationships, in the spotlight and through her lyrics.
And then there came the one about breaking up, making up, and breaking up again.
It all sounds like a bit of a joke, the language is that of a young person who doesn’t know what they want.
Games. False hope.
Does this sort of thing make most girls think there’s still hope, does it encourage a belief that if they just believe, then maybe just maybe? That when there’s drama, longing, and never quite stopping means it’s right or real or meant to last forever?
Does moving on become more challenging with these pop stars as models for love and relationships, when they themselves are just figuring things out as they go along too?
I ask all this about lyrics and I’m not even able to see the visual imagery in the music videos, all the stuff that young girls are exposed to, over and over again in the media.
“Life’s a game. Wanna play?”
Sounds like a line from Child’s Play, that creepy movie about the evil doll.
Lots of people play games, some more than others. Talk of being young and reckless. We’re all reckless at one time, but being reckless with someone else’s feelings is just plain mean. We’ve all got to grow up sometime.
“Boys only want love if it’s torture. Don’t say I didn’t warn you.”
I guess I felt this, wishing I’d been warned beforehand, but only during more of my lost and angry moments.
Because I know drama is often a part of people’s lives, in love, but it’s not just one gender or the other.
“Cause you know I love the players, and you love the game.”
“Rose garden filled with thorns,” love the imagery Swift.
“So it’s gonna be forever, or it’s gonna go down in flames. You can tell me when it’s over, if the high was worth the pain.”
Was it all worth it in the end?